Chances are that at some time in your life you will be faced with a downsizing move. It can be an emotional and overwhelming time, particularly for anyone who is moving to aged care or retirement or has a loved one considering the move.
Many people put it off because they can’t deal with what is in their home – years of possessions, treasures and memories.
Although lots of possessions means lots of decisions, for most of us we only have two main choices –
- Deciding what to take
- Deciding what to do with what is left behind
Where to start?
- Keep it simple? Indecision can lead to inaction and avoidance when dealing with a home full of possessions. Keep on track with a Keep It Simple Statement (KISS) that summarises your objectives and motivations for the move.
- Identify what you are taking? Knowing the exact space available and rooms in your new home will help you to make the best decisions – measure, know what fits, draw up a plan, define the function for each space and allocate furniture accordingly. Define your “must have” items and treasures. Don’t get bogged down with holding on to stuff from previous life phases – e.g. only take clothes that fit, are comfortable and you love to wear. Create keepsakes or memory books. Photographs can be a challenge for many – this is a great task for family to help with.
- What to do with what is left? Give to family/friends, sell what you can, embrace giving to charity and then toss what remains. Action and farewell items you are letting go of as soon as possible – acknowledge that they have served you well but can now be passed on.
- Still can’t let stuff go? You may need to explore your relationship to your stuff? Are you putting yourself first? It is easy to put a monetary value on possessions but harder to value your time, space and health? Have you fallen into the trap of being caretaker for other people’s stuff?
- Emotional challenges? If you have the luxury, take time to farewell items from important stages in your life and enjoy the memories. If you have inherited treasures that you have put off dealing with, then you need a big reality check – aren’t treasures supposed to bring us joy? Leaving items in boxes for years is not treating a loved one’s belongings with grace and respect. Now is the time to sort it all and chose the 5 Treasures from your loved one that bring you joy.
- Physical constraints? Assess what you can physically manage. You may need to work in short time periods – it can be tougher to make decisions when we are tired.
- Helping a loved one? Understand the importance of taking time to farewell life stages. Remember this is their journey not yours. Be non-judgmental, patient, make allowances, take it slowly and work at their pace. Are they still capable of making decisions? Are there other factors involved – bereavement, mental health disorders (hoarding, anxiety), depression or dementia? Value family relationships and assess whether you can support them at this challenging time. If needed, consider whether you need independent assistance.
- Get help! If you can’t handle it all, don’t be afraid to ask for help from family or friends, or call in a professional. We all organize differently and some find it easier than others.
(Taken from: Mary J Harnan BBus, Owner – founder – allsorter – 3A organiser)
KNOWING WHO I AM IN CHRIST
I am complete in Him Who is the Head of all principality and power (Colossians 2:10).
I am alive with Christ (Ephesians 2:5).
I am free from the law of sin and death (Romans 8:2).
I am far from oppression, and fear does not come near me (Isaiah 54:14).
I am born of God, and the evil one does not touch me (1 John 5:18).
I am holy and without blame before Him in love (Ephesians 1:4; 1 Peter 1:16).
I have the mind of Christ (1 Corinthians 2:16; Philippians 2:5).
I have the peace of God that passes all understanding (Philippians 4:7).
I have the Greater One living in me; greater is He Who is in me than he who is in the world (1 John 4:4).
I have received the gift of righteousness and reign as a king in life by Jesus Christ (Romans 5:17).
I have received the spirit of wisdom and revelation in the knowledge of Jesus, the eyes of my understanding being enlightened (Ephesians 1:17,18).
I have received the power of the Holy Spirit to lay hands on the sick and see them recover, to cast out demons, to speak with new tongues. I have power over all the power of the enemy, and nothing shall by any means harm me (Mark 16:17,18; Luke 10:17,19).
I have put off the old man and have put on the new man, which is renewed in the knowledge after the image of Him Who created me (Colossians 3:9,10).
I have given, and it is given to me; good measure, pressed down, shaken together, and running over, men give into my bosom (Luke 6:38).
I have no lack for my God supplies all of my need according to His riches in glory by Christ Jesus
I can quench all the fiery darts of the wicked one with my shield of faith (Ephesians 6:16).
I can do all things through Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:13).
I show forth the praises of God Who has called me out of darkness into His marvelous light (1 Peter 2:9).
I am God’s child⎯for I am born again of the incorruptible seed of the Word of God, which lives and abides
forever (1 Peter 1:23).
I am God’s workmanship, created in Christ unto good works (Ephesians 2:10).
I am a new creature in Christ (2 Corinthians 5:17).
I am a spirit being⎯alive to God (Romans 6:11;1 Thessalonians 5:23).
I am a believer, and the light of the Gospel shines in my mind (2 Corinthians 4:4).
I am a doer of the Word and blessed in my actions (James 1:22, 25).
I am a joint-heir with Christ (Romans 8:17).
I am more than a conqueror through Him Who loves me (Romans 8:37).
I am an overcomer by the blood of the Lamb and the word of my testimony (Revelation 12:11).
I am a partaker of His divine nature (2 Peter 1:3,4).
I am an ambassador for Christ (2 Corinthians 5:20).
I am part of a chosen generation, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a purchased people (1 Peter 2:9).
I am the righteousness of God in Jesus Christ (2 Corinthians 5:21).
I am the temple of the Holy Spirit; I am not my own (1 Corinthians 6:19).
I am the head and not the tail; I am above only and not beneath (Deuteronomy 28:13).
I am the light of the world (Matthew 5:14).
I am His elect, full of mercy, kindness, humility, and longsuffering (Romans 8:33; Colossians 3:12).
I am forgiven of all my sins and washed in the Blood (Ephesians 1:7).
I am delivered from the power of darkness and translated into God’s kingdom (Colossians 1:13).
I am redeemed from the curse of sin, sickness, and poverty (Deuteronomy 28:15-68; Galatians 3:13).
I am firmly rooted, built up, established in my faith and overflowing with gratitude (Colossians 2:7).
I am called of God to be the voice of His praise (Psalm 66:8; 2 Timothy 1:9).
I am healed by the stripes of Jesus (Isaiah 53:5; 1 Peter 2:24).
I am raised up with Christ and seated in heavenly places (Ephesians 2:6; Colossians 2:12;).
I am greatly loved by God (Romans 1:7; Ephesians 2:4; Colossians 3:12; 1 Thessalonians 1:4).
I am strengthened with all might according to His glorious power (Colossians 1:11).
I am submitted to God, and the devil flees from me because I resist him in the Name of Jesus (James 4:7).
I press on toward the goal to win the prize to which God in Christ Jesus is calling us upward (Philippians 3:14).
For God has not given us a spirit of fear; but of power, love, and a sound mind (2 Timothy 1:7).
It is not I who live, but Christ lives in me (Galatians 2:20).
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